I've attended multiple wedding dinners and wedding ceremony. But this two days, I experienced the full and detail wedding. Two best adjective - MONEY CONSUMING and TIRING.
Throwing so much money on a wedding dinner definitely not an investment. And yet, you'll be both physically and mentally tortured. The guys would agree with me that marrying a girl is not an easy job. That involves really a lot of commitment, once you sign your name on that lightly weight paper - which gives the legal effect for your wife or maybe you to fight for their rights. I study this in Family Law, so I think I'll be in a smarter bargaining party. =D After getting married, you're officially declared as the poor fella who got the heart of your beauty queen. Recovery takes time, unless you're a multi millionaire and earn big bucks, counting by seconds.
Having the wedding ceremony is like acting in front of all your relatives. All those monkey shows, I mean those games where the bride maids twisted their brain for those incredible ideas to tease the best men. The objective is to give them some difficulties in order to win the bride's heart. But normally the couple are already legally married (like my cousin's case). This is the Chinese custom. It has been practiced for years and symbolizes happiness I'm sure.
I'm not going to waste my time writing what I'm not too sure with. This website (http://www.chcp.org/wedding.html) will definitely clear your doubts. Unfortunately, I was asked whether to have this ceremony when I get married. I said I'm not sure, there are many reasons behind why these ceremony are still held, although it has been modified to the more modern ones.
Reasons I think these ceremony still exist, and very popular among Chinese family.
1. Parents insistence
2. Fun
3. Keep as a memorable moment
4. It's tradition and we should remain it
5. Isn't it a must?
I think the practice of this ceremony has dwindle in numbers over the years. Some who converted to Christian or other religion no longer practice this custom simply because they thought it was a religion practice. But there are also some who still have this ceremony, before they have their wedding in the church or some religious place.
Besides, after the wedding ceremony, the couple would normally throw another dinner event for the acknowledgement of friends and family. This is the one which requires plenty of CASH, although some might argue that the cost can be covered. I'll do you a simple calculation.
Let's say you had the wedding dinner at a simple Chinese restaurant, serving the simplest 10 course dinner. You will be having let's say 40 tables.
40 tables X 10 = 400 guest
Cost for each table will be around RM600 (very basic)
40 X RM600 (exclude liquor) = RM 24,000
RM 24,000 divided by 400 guest = RM60 per guest
Average Ang Pau by the guest will be RM50*.
So here you'll lose RM10 per guest.
*depending on the guest generosity though.
Loss of RM10 per guest will make you lose 4,000 with 400guest attending.
What about those who didn't turn up last minute, no ang pau, no news. And you can't find anyone to replace that missing space. An average guest who doesn't turn up with an ang pau will be 10 person per dinner, minimal calculation. So that would make you lose another RM500.
This basic workout has already make losses of RM4,500. You might argue that some of the ang pau might make earnings especially relatives'. But you haven't take in those circumstances where a couple giving RM150 bringing 2 kids and taking up 4 seats.
If I would like to throw my wedding party, I would want to have it at a hotel. Of course that would only be possible if I earn enough, or my husband can afford. An average dinner table at a hotel would be RM1200 (and this is the price at Sheraton Imperial 5years back). So do your own calculation.
No more facts about wedding. I'll just share some pictures taken during the wedding.
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